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The Rules: When Your BFF Goes Through A Break Up

Feb 21, 2012 at 6:17pm by JWOWW

The only thing worse that suffering through a miserable break up is watching your BFF suffer through one. Here are some tips for when your bestie has a broken heart.

1. You’re going to have to be patient because people going through breakups tend to wallow. We all do it. Just try to be understanding and listen and encourage your bestie to talk it out. It’s best to listen. Send her links to articles and funny videos to help get her thinking about other things.

2. Avoid giving advice! What might be right for you, might not work for someone else. We all think we know better. Now is not the time. Keep your advice to yourself.

3. Help your friend throw away all the things that remind her of the dirt bag that broke her heart. If not, she’s going to call you blubbering every time she see’s his stinky work out tank top sitting in the corner. Get rid of the memory triggers!

4. Remember that you literally cannot fix your friend’s broken heart. It just takes time, so avoid trying to do things to fix the situation and just be a good friend.

5. Have a night of iTunes Karaoke where you just sit around in your PJ’s singing songs together…pull out all the break up classics, there are so many but some of my personal favs are J-Tims “Cry Me a River,” Alanis Morissette’s “You Oughta Know,” Destiny’s Child’s “Survivor,” and the greatest break up song of all time, Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive.”

Can you think of any other tips for when your BFF is going through a break up?

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Liddle MaMa

Mar 2, 2012 at 6:44pm

#10

when me and my friends are down we like to have girl time and party

Nessie

Mar 3, 2012 at 10:43am

#11

A Girly Night In.. Facemasks, Pj's, Pizza, Icecream, Popcorn, Chocolate & Watch Grease :) Perfect!!
Matty Martini

Mar 4, 2012 at 11:52am

#12

Ok so I had a "friend" who was going through this same issue last year for the thousandth time. To explain this situation better, I am gay and so is my friend. We became friends by me being attracted to him. After hearing that he wasn't interested in me in that way, I decided to just be friends with the dude. Being a good friend, I helped him through his situation. Here are some things that you should NOT do. First of all, this person needs space - even they do not know it - give them their space. Phoning them everyday is not giving them enough time to breathe, even if they are the ones who want you to phone them everyday. Secondly, do not spend every day with them. Yes if you study at the same varsity it is a different story (we studied together). When holiday time comes around, do not spend too much time with this person, they need to see other people as well. Encourage them out to go out and have fun with other friends instead of just visiting them at home and spending the entire there with them. Let them have their freedom, if they want to a bit rebellious, as a good friend, allow them to - so long as they are being safe. That means no drugs, no black out drunken nights all the time and completely absolutely safe sex! If you are of opposite sex or gay and the same sex, do NOT develop feelings for this person. One thing that may happen is that they will notice that you have feelings for them and they might decide to take advantage of this. If they are a good friend - they won't do this. Always UNDERSTAND THE ART OF MANIPULATION BUT NEVER USE IT. And DON'T allow them to use it on you - don't fall for it. If they are your best friend or claim to be your best friend - they don't need to reassure you of this all the time. A person who does reassure you of this all the time usually says that to keep you in tact and wrapped around their little finger. You are going to end up hurt if they get better and just abandoned you because they are having a good time and associate you with the hurt that they have had with regard to their past relationship. So, if you best friend is going through a break up - be there for them, show your support and give them tough love. They need to learn and you need to know that this person is your best friend.
lori

Apr 3, 2012 at 6:12pm

#13

i think you just need to comfort her, and hang out. everybody needs friends to hang out with to get them through those tough times. and im sure they'll appreciate it. just have a blast with them and they'll go back to the way they were cause they forgot all about the guy or girl that broke their heart, cause they were having a blast with you.;p
Rebecca Hale

Apr 23, 2012 at 5:45pm

#14

so my bestfriend got together with my exboyfriend not 2 weeks after we broke up...i almost punch them in the face. Her and i are not friends anymore, hes a douchbag, And the funny part is, when they were going out he cheated on her. Hahaha she deserved it!

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